When the shit did 2 day hangovers start?! It's that the way people treat me has changed. Here I am at 32 struggling to make ends meet as a freelance reporter who can barely get two assignments a month. Broke my tibia and fibula at 22 y/o last September, and I’ve been walking for three and a half weeks today. The Best Gift Ideas for the Large (and in Charge) Men In Your Life Read More. What's the name for the dude who's always down for anything, but never reaches out? I'm 33 and this is the first year where I've tries to truly me real with myself about who and what I am. He looks 50, I look 25. Your abdominal wall, your glutes and spinal erectors all play a part in keeping your back strong and mobile. If you're still sniffing around girls in their early 20s, yes, you will look like a creep, but on the positive side, girls in their early 20s are absolutely exhausting to deal with. [–][deleted] 123 points124 points125 points 1 year ago (19 children), [–]jc3ze 16 points17 points18 points 1 year ago (0 children). The AskMen editorial team thoroughly researches & reviews the best gear, services and staples for life. It was really hard growing up watching him start to deteriorate, but I’m glad I had fun with him when I was still and innocent kid. That includes boobs, butts, and your weird eyebrows. Most of the things I remember and regret, I did to myself through lack of awareness and commitment. No matter how hard you work, someone will have criticism. 17.0k votes, 4.8k comments. Entertainment. If not, you should build one today. You’re not flailing in the dark anymore. ", [–]Jeffreyrock 155 points156 points157 points 1 year ago* (8 children), "You wouldn't worry so much about what other people think of you if you realized how seldom that they do." [–]40ozSmasher 376 points377 points378 points 1 year ago (8 children). Our parents are just normal people who tried their best. I still feel fulfilled. They’re literally the most important part of the group. In my "friends" group, I'm always the person to initiate a conversation, set something up to hang out etc. Your motives will determine your words and your actions. I try to make the conscious decision to be at peace with what’s happening even when I don’t like it, and that change in perspective has helped me greatly. Take care of it because you will never get another. [–]diemunkiesdie 89 points90 points91 points 1 year ago (11 children), Definitely varies. Death is real and universal; time waits for no man. There’s also a major bonus involved, because it’s not about impressing people as much as it used to be! It was a tough transition for me to accept at first. It matters. That is life." [–]iknowiknow138 19340Answer Link1933 points1934 points1935 points 1 year ago* (62 children). This can save you so much pain and money down the line. The AskMen editorial team thoroughly researches & reviews the best gear, services and staples for life. I remember how he was when I was a child, but I’ve realized I never really got to any real mature conversations with him before he changed. First silver! ~ Frasier. IF medical issue THEN seek medical help asap [–]PallyCecil 117 points118 points119 points 1 year ago (0 children). I Agree. [–]kilcrath 688 points689 points690 points 1 year ago (27 children), I just realized this when I thought about how much I think about other people, [–]Linkerjinx 217 points218 points219 points 1 year ago (6 children). [–]Digitallus1 204 points205 points206 points 1 year ago (11 children), Wouldn’t try to pretend you created it lol it’s an incredibly popular quote, [–]PillowTalk420 164 points165 points166 points 1 year ago (7 children), Yes, but you see, the people I see every day are uncultured swine and wouldn't have heard it before, just like I haven't. [–]Shabaladoo 24040Answer Link2403 points2404 points2405 points 1 year ago (76 children). Whatching your parents get old is the absolute hardest part about getting older. I’m in high school and a few years ago I had to watch my grandpa fall victim to Alzheimer’s and a little bit of dementia. Till I read your comment, I was thinking that they are responsible for many of my issues. Like, you can call me at 2 am and need me for something and I'm already on my way, but if no one reaches out I'll find something to occupy me. It gets harder to make friends when you get older as a guy and loneliness can be SO CRIPPLING. You should really have anchors, rituals, practices and systems in place that you kind of run on autopilot to keep going when times get rough or to get out of a bind. Some actual worries I have as a guy in his early twenties are will my loans fuck me over, will my choice of education bite me in the ass, will I ever meet somebody to love, will I ever be able to buy a house. [–]kendollamar 131 points132 points133 points 1 year ago (46 children). Be your own savior through systems and habits It means that you made a mistake, and you have the emotional recognition that it was a mistake. But don't ever kid yourself that 'I'll be happy when I get [X]', or 'I'll be content when I achieve [X]'. Doing what you love is great if it makes a lot of money. [–]SydricVym 101 points102 points103 points 1 year ago (5 children). I know way to many people that waited until their thirties to actually start applying themselves. Shares. It seems a little drawn out so idk if I’d necessarily recommend it, but the big thing it helped me realize is that it’s ridiculous to try not to fail. You may feel young and think that you are still 20, but the young women you are trying to flirt with see a pervy old dude. I always wanted to be a rockstar guitarist growing up, but I was young and dumb and never worked for it. It becomes possible to pull a muscle while taking a piss or a dump. I'm the reason why my family can't stand me, and I could be doing a lot more to mend those broken relationships. [–]coryhotlineFemale 51 points52 points53 points 1 year ago (5 children). I do not need external validation. Edit: The quote originated with John Steinbeck, not Frasier. So true. But looking back, I was actually very influenced by the music I was listening to and the tv I was watching. Your intention and commitment make your imagination become reality. Who knows? [–]Soybeanns 226 points227 points228 points 1 year ago (12 children). Share Tweet Flip. You’ll eventually find your destination. The online guitar communities on YouTube and Instagram are INSANELY welcoming, and the big trend right now is hardcore collaboration, so I’ve been making friends on discord servers and Facebook groups, and all sorts of places, where we all share our guitar/music ideas, and a ton of us collaborate. Either you lose them or they lose you. Living your life to be ready to give up everything at a moment's notice sounds horrible. [–]jtl090179 362 points363 points364 points 1 year ago (19 children). Will we? AskMen on Flipboard. What marketing strategies does Askmen use? [–]PhysicsHenchman 17 points18 points19 points 1 year ago (0 children). Find more subreddits like r/AskMen -- r/AskMen: the premier place to ask random strangers for terrible dating advice, but preferably from the male perspective. What phone/shoes/t-shirt you have doesn't matter. If we fail, evaluate what went wrong, make changes, and try again, we can basically do anything. don't read ahead if you're easily disgusted with these things. Totally agree. Ain't no rest for the wicked, and, God damn, am I exhausted. (The young minded will try to disprove this, but will later realize they are wrong), [–]BaltazarDZMale 72 points73 points74 points 1 year ago (1 child). So I’d say needing a drawback or failure to really kick us in the butt and wake us up is probably pretty normal. You gain weight faster and lose it slower. Men who live alone, what advice would you give to someone starting on that path. I realized recently my attitude needed a big change. I came back and this girl flipped my empathy switch back on and now... yea.... we all live on our own version of earth. Do not post pictures or ask questions looking for affirmation of your appearance or body features. The type-a networker just moved away and our group is struggling to stay together. There was a TED talk that I listened to several years ago that had a similar topic. I went from always doing something with friends to being stuck at home all the time. Do you still build pillow forts? now im going to use it all the time and pretend i created it. AskMen's Dating channel offers you all the advice you need to become a Better Man in romance and relationships. There is no place you can go, no amount of money you can make, things you can have or people that you associate with that will stop the universe from throwing its unending and relentless amount of inconvenient shit at you. This is a nuanced truth which shows that you have learnt to be positive overall despite life having lots of negativity. We are always going to mess up and face failures, and the way we respond to that is a big determination of how our lives will be. Most of these posts make me want to have a midlife crisis at 27 lol, [–]FountainofR 221 points222 points223 points 1 year ago (10 children). [–]therabbii 46 points47 points48 points 1 year ago (0 children). You gain a lot if you eat mo'. [–]MyPunsSuck 432 points433 points434 points 1 year ago (19 children). [–]Schallfaden 100 points101 points102 points 1 year ago* (18 children). I wasted a lot of time reading and thinking about issues I have no control over. They like to talk about how stupid it is to go back to college in my 30’s because it’s a waste of time and money. It's not that I've changed at 50+. It's your life and you decide what matters to you whether it be video have achievements, your clothes, your tv or whatever else you care about. Usually 2 weeks of hell before they return normal and inside my ass. r/AskMen: It's time to stop. In the early stages of dating, have you experienced a woman grow instantly more or less attracted to you when they found out your financial status? It's so strange. My Husband is My Best Friend. :(, [–]greeny58 11680Answer Link1167 points1168 points1169 points 1 year ago (33 children). You could still find success. Media. alchohol can be one of the easiest ways to change how you look. I prefer "Help others if you are able, but don't feel obligated to." While this is pretty dead set on guitar, I’d be willing to bet that there are similar communities for pretty much all interests. That constantly worrying about bad things happening doesn’t stop bad things from happening. Boners are harder to maintain. I won't ever forget the pain I endured the first days after the operation when taking a shit. We recommend talking to a medical professional instead of the Internet. [–]knit_t 35 points36 points37 points 1 year ago (1 child). [–][deleted] 31 points32 points33 points 1 year ago (1 child), Oh I meant people in the street. This includes external sites looking to farm responses for content. AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. This is the truthiest truth there is, but death scares me way less than getting so old I can no longer function in a normal way. That question has a million answers, but the common thread across them all is that the way I thought caused the depression, but I insisted on seeing it the other way around. Usually it happened because of poor dietary choices, like eating too much chocolate or spicy food, and they hurted a lot. The mindset of "that won't/can't happen to me" disappear and you realize that you are actually "fragile" and not "immune" to things like injury etc. And your motives. [–]dbd6604 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (0 children), [–]Jeffreyrock 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children). If that happens, I'll be lucky if I get to meet my grandchildren before I die. Recognize poisonous people. Save some of the fuel to keep yourself toasty. [–]LetsGetWeirdddddd 20 points21 points22 points 1 year ago (2 children), "Worrying is like a rocking chair; it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere. ", [–]Cr4zychris 149 points150 points151 points 1 year ago (5 children). Top books mentioned on Reddit. Do not directly link to comments in other subs. So much to do, so much to see, so what's wrong with eating a pastry? I've come to learn that those embarrassing experiences were the times I learned lessons, and if they hadn't happened then (when I was younger) they would have happened later (when I would have been older, and the consequences more severe). I only see that as more of reason to stay on top of this with a lifelong learning approach. If you want to be a sad sack and complain about your life, go to /r/rant or /r/ForeverAlone. [–]FoolHardE-Love 98 points99 points100 points 1 year ago (4 children). How that manifests in their minds about who I am is an unknown fear that my anxiety tries to worry about/figure out. Even then, make time for it. [–]juliosmacedo 53 points54 points55 points 1 year ago (3 children), reaching this conclusion is quite simple actually. People mostly don’t care that I’m redlining at their normal walking speed. Happiness comes from within. I’m definitely looking more for a partner and a friend rather than just superficial connections. Acting on it is a whole different ball game, [–]Finger_in_mah_butt 236 points237 points238 points 1 year ago (47 children). Nobody cares about 90%+ of the stuff you convince yourself is vital, [–]NuclearMaterialMale 3063 points3064 points3065 points 1 year ago (153 children). [–]Justsin7 1763 points1764 points1765 points 1 year ago* (26 children). [–]BenIsProbablyAngry 406 points407 points408 points 1 year ago (32 children). When you work on your self and harmony across life areas, people can come to your aid and lucky breaks may occur, but you can lose those just as quickly as you gain them. Have a hobby, community or activity you can spend time on regularly. I was months away from back surgery at age 23. I want to add on to this: it also doesn’t need to be IRL! 0. Realizing "I can do exercises to strengthen my hip but ultimately it will never get 'better'" was like realizing I am going to die someday in a whole new way. (Note: this doesn't mean it happens magically, any of it. The role I appreciate the most is the one who glues everyone together, the networker. , [–]Littlebrownfoxx 112 points113 points114 points 1 year ago (3 children). I'm 38 years old, and I'm more aware than ever that I'm just a little kid driving around in an adult body, stomped down by the cumulative force of the real world - eighth-grade bullies, asshole bosses, bad luck, unhealthy relationships, and the occasional hard-fought win. There will be no magic moment that changes it all. There are roles we play in our friends groups. Glad I quit wasting my time with them. The plan may not be 100% correct, but the best you can do is set a direction and adjust along the way. 12,739 talking about this. If too expensive maybe a free clinic or an online consultation would do. Neither can we lol. I appreciate it, [–][deleted] 303 points304 points305 points 1 year ago (17 children). Obviously demand can change considering the time we live in. Sorry for the rant, this hits close to home. 4. You have so much time to spend with them now and enjoy the people they've become, and if they have children you'll still be young enough to enjoy your grandchildren in every way and to see them grow up too. Rendered by PID 16100 on r2-app-0bf57e1f6bf008a9d at 2021-02-23 11:37:38.680746+00:00 running 81a1eda country code: PT. This is the difference between happiness and joy. It's very odd. You need to be your own best friend, cheerleader, drill sergeant and mommy. If you were never an active person this can happen even sooner especially if you sit a lot. Solid advice. Sometimes automod fucks up - if you think it did, you can message us, but if you roll up to the modmail with a fucking attitude, we're not going to indulge you. 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